Shortly after JBird was born, my husband and I took a postpartum class. It was wonderful and helpful, and what I remember most was when our instructor told us –
In the coming days, weeks, years, you’ll receive a lot of unsolicited advice about what you should and should not do. Here’s a suggestion for you, take all the advice, say thank-you and put it in your toolbox. Later, you can decide whether you want to use that piece of advice or not.
When I’m at my critique group, and my piece is being discussed, I like to sit back and take it all in. I may not agree with it all, but I will listen and say thank-you.
Then sometime later, during revisions, I will pull out the chapters that have been critiqued. Many times, as I read them, I find myself agreeing with some of the suggestions. However, there are other times my instinct tells me the suggestions won’t work so, I won’t incorporate them.
Critique groups are great, and Literary agent Jessica Faust recently wrote about the benefits of them, but cautions that you should trust yourself.
Take everything you’re given from agents, editors, and critique partners and absorb it, weed through it, and decide what works for you and what doesn’t.
How do you handle critiques? Do you often agree or disagree with the suggestions?
What if you get one that seems “wrong”? Do you say thanks and leave it, or do you “argue” with the critiquer?
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